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Missing skills to reach one’s goals
I have heard many people telling me their goals of what they wish to do, especially at the beginning of the year. Sometimes 5 to 10 years later, I hear them saying the same goals – whether it is making more money, or losing weight or having better relationships, etc. After 30 years of coaching business owners and executives, I found that how to CARRY OUT the actions to reach the goals is a skill in itself to be learned! For e.g., many people like to have relationships that last. But only the minority make it. Up to 80% of businesses in the US fail in the first 3 years. Yet, we have no shortage of knowledge – in fact there is such an abundance of knowledge on how to succeed in all fields available in this digital age! So where does the problem lie? I created this leadership seminar to help business owners and executives to find the missing gaps in their steps to reach their income and leadership goals: http://consultanthellenchen.com/winning-leadership-seminar I do believe in the power of goal-setting, and having a clear vision of what we want in life. However, one also needs to DO the correct steps to reach those goals. And what are the correct steps for another person, may not be the right ones for you! Doing nothing or doing a lot (with someone else's steps which do not fit you) all lead to the same result: failed goals. Hellen Chen PS: If you are not sure if this seminar is for you, or simply like to know more how it may relate to your career or business goals, I suggest you to call and talk to my team. Our phone number: (800) 912-0510 Link to the seminar page:...
Read MoreIn Marriage, the Fun Comes with Your Dedication
If you want to play the game of marriage well, you have to assess how much participation you wish to put in, how much attention you pay and the degree of your care. How can you get any great pleasure without active engagement? It is like playing on a basketball team. A player who cares for the team will put all his effort into training because he’s serious about competition and cares about everything related to the team. He treasures his uniform and make sure to show up on time for practices. It is all about being dedicated and taking it to heart. If you give your full efforts and are serious, you can then play it for the best enjoyment, enjoying the highest collaboration with the team. In contrast, some people, though on a basketball team, do not care much about playing or practicing. Something else is always on their mind. It is imaginable that their performance will be affected. The relationship between team members are the same way. If everyone is equally dedicated, and they all like playing the game, then the game will be fun and high spirited. On the contrary, if some players love playing the game, while others do not, unhappiness in the team will ensue. Just by looking at the field of playing sports, we can see the big differences between attitude and result. You can choose what you want. If you do not wish to participate that much, it is only natural that you do not get much rewards back. To be a good player in the game of marriage, you need to be well- equipped, apart from your level of commitment. Happiness is not based on luck. Instead, it is based on continuous practice and hard work, constantly ‘doing’ until it materializes. A happy marriage requires a great deal of interest and commitment from one’s part, and lots of management. Serious problems occur in a marriage not because of ‘marriage’ itself. It is because those who are involved do not value enough, do not understand, or do not concentrate on this aspect of life. For example, if you only like to work and are not willing to spend time managing your marriage, then the rate of failure is of course very high. The key to marriage management is your ability, which can be acquired through learning. Many people have acquired this ability at my Love Seminar events. No matter what is your goal for your relationships or marriage, the success of it fully depends on whether you are serious and whether you will work hard to develop that “love ability” – it is all boiling down to one’s decision to do so or not. I will be holding my Love Seminar in Los Angeles on September 29. Looking forward to see all of you in LA. Hellen Chen Relationship Consultant...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s Love Seminar
Do you dream about having a fairy-tale love story? What if you could make it come true? You can create and live the most beautiful love story you can ever imagine!! Hellen Chen's Love Seminar will be held in Los Angeles: http://smarturl.it/LA_love_seminar Hellen Chen Relationship Consultant...
Read MoreLasting love is not achieved by flowers, diamonds or having a house
Many people would admit that lasting love is not achieved by flowers, diamonds or having a house. Yet, men and women commit the same mistakes of trying to keep a relationship lasting by...yes, putting their attention on flowers, diamonds or any materialistic items such as money! Love is achieved by constantly teasing and flirting with each other and creating the loving romantic feeling. When a wife comes home, the act of a husband walking up to his wife to give her a hug would show his sweetness much better than if he would buy her anything she wants and yet never really talks to her. Similarly, when a husband comes home, if a wife stands up and welcome her husband. This will make the husband very happy! Yes, he will feel much happier than the wife being simply “too busy” to even greet the husband. But if the husband comes home and the wife has a stiff face and she says in a rough voice, “So you are back! Hungry??” The husband will forget that he is hungry and when he looks at his wife’s face, he will think, “This looks dangerous. I better go somewhere else!” So in the world of love, it is very important to learn how to make another person comfortable and at the same time, be comfortable yourself. This is an art which I teach at my Love Seminar. We have seen many husbands afraid of wives -- typical henpecked husbands. Poor guys. They work hard, make money, they are competent and handsome. But they are very much afraid of their wives. They say, “My wife won’t allow me.” “I can’t. My wife will get mad.” Of course, there are different types of fear. If the fear creates so much pressure and so much discomfort, there will be marital problems that get worse. The lesson to take away is, are you aware of how comfortable you make another person feel, or are you so insensitive that your loved ones are simply tolerating you or too afraid of you? What kinds of feelings do you create for another when you are with someone? Some people assume that because they have gotten along well with their co-workers and clients in their professional field, they would have no problem with their spouses and family members. Many managers, execs, CEOs who have attended my Love Seminar, and with surprise discovered their lack of handling skills in areas of communication whenever love matters are concerned. Love is an ABILITY. Love is not achieved by luck or your money. I will be holding my 18th Love Seminar in Los Angeles. Looking forward to see all of you in LA. Hellen Chen Relationship Consultant...
Read More17th Los Angeles Love Seminar Success Stories
I had such a great time at my 17th Love Seminar event in Los Angeles today!! Romance, lasting love relationships are all possible! My husband and I have been married for close to 30 years and we fall more in love with each other year after year. Having taught many couples and singles how to create the beautiful love story they have wanted, and having helped many couples to walk down the aisle, and to stay happily together, I know true love is indeed something ANYONE can experience -- no matter age, race, culture! Reading through the feedback and success stories shared from the Love Seminar attendees really made me very happy. One can indeed create love and passion and happiness. It really starts from ourselves! Here are some great successes from my students: "We do all wrong in all modern society. So the right thing is to marry and then build the relationship starting from that very strong basic foundation. If you date or hesistate, you'll get nothing." -- S. Marie "I understand the importance of happiness that originate from me, versus wanting others to make me happy. The passion of life is created by myself!" --S. C. "It is impossible to have romance or have the "in-love" feeling when I cannot even be happy with myself. When I am with my husband, the love sparks get less and less. When I cannot create happiness for myself, I can never create happiness for another." --A. C. "During the seminar, I found the exact reason why I had failed with a past girl that I had loved. Just this understanding alone frees me up to create even more now. I now know more about myself!" --S.C. "If I want love and romance from my wife, it starts from my actions to create love. I see how little I have given, and yet expect a lot. Thanks Hellen, this is a big lesson for me." --Z.W. "How would I know if the person in front of me is the "right" one? I was consumed with looking at the faults of another to the point that I missed the faults in myself, and also missed my ultimate goal, to have a relationship that last, not money, nor status, nor other materialistic criteria. I now know how to find my "right partner'." --Z. H. For my next Los Angeles Love Seminar, go...
Read MoreHellen Chen Interview on VoiceAmerica Radio
Part 2 is here! Bestselling author and relationship expert, Hellen Chen appeared again on the VoiceAmerica radio show "Transformation for Success" on Tuesday, September 12, 2017, at 12 PM Pacific Standard Time. Host Dr. Barbara Young talked with Ms. Chen about a range of topics, including the fear of meeting the "wrong person", and what men and women want out of relationships. Hellen also shared about concepts in her Matchmaker of the Century book: dating after marriage. Check out PART 2 of the interview right here: Listen to PART 1 of the interview here: Details of Hellen Chen's Love Seminar in Los Angeles can be found...
Read More“Date after marriage, not before.”
I emphasize “date after marriage, not before.” When one is just dating with someone, the issues faced will never be the major issues faced by a married couple. The most important point of marriage is to find a person first, then you can create love together with that person -- for the rest of your life. Before you build a house, you need a piece of land. How the land looks is not important. The most important point is to find the land first before you can build a house. If you first fantasize on how your house should look, how the decor should be, it is not practical thinking. You don’t even have land! Once you have land, you can build it any way you want – how fancy the design is, how elegant the decor is – all up to you! If you have land, you are not worried about having an ugly house. You will build it the way you like it. If the house is ugly, then it is your own doing! This is what I mean by the principle of “staking out your land.” As to how to fight for this land, how to win it, what kinds of ways to get it, how to get the contract... this is the time to flaunt your talents! If you cannot get the contract, who would know how talented you really are? Isn’t the sequence to get the contract first, then work on the “how-to” in executing the project? Many people have lots of good ideas about a project, but they cannot even come near to getting a client’s contract. There is an old Chinese saying: first form a family, establish your career after. The modern individuals often do it the opposite way. They think they must have financial stability before marriage – they have been taught incorrectly on this point. Does that mean a person who has financial stability will never get divorced? Does that mean a person who doesn’t have financial stability could never get married? All these are not correct. The principle is simple. If one person can survive on their own, then two persons will not be a problem! After marriage, one will increase one’s responsibility level, especially after giving birth to kids. One has more willingness to produce. You have your own place to take care of. You may need the income of you and your spouse to make it. But that is taking responsibility in life and it is more interesting and a lot more constructive. Marriage has nothing to do with smartness. It is a matter of willingness. The decision to get married will make you improve. After marriage, you are forced to move forward in life, and having children will force you to move forward as well. For survival sake, you have no choice but to become competent and able. Marriage is all about staking out a path. This path is a very long journey traveled by 2 persons. Don’t think critically about your spouse and how he or she is not a match –even the most matched couples will fight. Do not mind how the man may be somewhat dull in some areas or the woman is not the ideal person one is looking for. So don’t criticize another person. Think about 10, 20 years later, does that person have the potential to travel on this road with you? That is the main point you should look at. When I look at a person, I never look at his appearance or what his salary is. I look at his potential. Is his goal the same as mine: willing to improve and grow? You have to ask yourself what kind of life you would like to live 10, 20 years from now? And thus nourish the relationship with your partner to get to where you wish to go! If you want to know how to find the right...
Read MoreHow To Play A Woman’s Role Well?
I have talked about the role of man and woman in a relationship and how to fulfill their roles. In this article, I will highlight the woman’s role. For last 10 years, I have conducted a Bride Training Class to specifically teach women how to assume the role of a woman well and how to manage their relationships as wives. (Similarly, if you are a man, you can take part in the Groom Training Class.) Some of what I teach starts with core principles. For instance, how to be attractive. You would be surprised how many women were not even familiar and at ease with their body. They did not know how to apply makeup and did not know how to dress up to make themselves attractive. To be a woman is actually not easy. This is the reason why problems occur continuously between the two sexes: women frequently have a hard time to play their role well. The women of today are very strong, competent and have a high level of education. Their ability to fight back is often ten times stronger than men. They speak fast, think fast, react fast, and act fast. They are also highly sensitive. However, in a relationship, these qualities will drive a man crazy. This is another reason why love can suffer. I am not here to tell women that they must suppress themselves and hold back. Understand the purpose of having a relationship: when men and women are together, there is no reason for either one to try to show who is better than the other. In a relationship, men are not doing business transactions with women. Man and woman are not together because of needing to sign business contracts where one side may want the upper hand. When women are at work, they certainly can be strong and able, just like a “superwoman.” But one has to know how to change your role between work and love. ( I teach this extensively at my Love Seminar) And don’t misunderstand this point. Women do not need to behave like a weak and helpless person at home either. And women do not have to show off anything or try to impress someone – they can just simply be adorable and be themselves! If you do these well as a woman, you will literally charm everyone around you! My book “Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar” covers how to play the role of man and woman to make a relationship working. Hellen Chen Bestselling Author Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar...
Read MoreWhat matters the most in your life?
At the end of life, what could you look back and really know you have not lived in vain? One thing that matters the most to me is love. I believe in love and I believe that all of us can create and live the most beautiful love story we can ever imagine! See you at my next love seminar event: Los Angeles Event: http://smarturl.it/hc-la-seminar Taiwan...
Read MoreHow Do You Really Understand Someone?
My side passion has always been to meddle in other people's relationship issues. And over the years, in addition to being a business and management consultant, I have even earned the title of "Matchmaker of the Century." This title was given to me by the couples I have match-made. It is not because I have match-made thousands of people. It is because the people whom I have match-made usually have hard-to-resolve issues which make them not wanting marriage. My longest record has been working with a lady for 8 years, to finally get her to say "I do." Many people have told me the reason why they could not get married is because they have not found someone they like. What I have seen is people wasting lots of time in dating. They wanted to "make sure" someone is the right one. They hanged on to futile relationships or they break up with the person whom they should have married. Here is another issue: if you have met someone you like, how do you go about understanding that person? Do you go out with him to watch a movie? Have dinner? Kiss? Observe how he dresses? Ask about his background? The truth is: you cannot fully understand a person this way! It is not that you are not smart enough. It is the fact that even he himself does not know himself. You ask him 10 questions about life. He says, "I don't know" or even if he gives an answer, it is not completely how he feels. Can you see the problem? He is not even sure why he gives those answers! If you really want to know a person completely, you need to use a whole lifetime and at least be with him/her! And people change. Your favorite color, food, music and hobbies all can change. So if you think you "understand" someone, I guess this could only happen if he/she never changes. For some of you, your parents or siblings have not understood you despite spending so much time together. Thus, to find a partner who can truly understand you is almost an impossible task! You spend 2 years dating this person – how well do both of you know each other? So why waste the 2 years? Why not just get married first and then try to understand each other? At least this is your better half, you will start to manage your marriage life, have kids, etc. This kind of life is real. When you are just a boyfriend and a girlfriend, what you understand and know about each other is not real – both sides are always withholding certain things. How she dresses for you at the date may not be how she dresses usually. After marriage, she may not dress this way or speak to you in the same manner. And the love sparks between you and her are just like acting in a play. No matter how much you have given for this relationship, it is like trying to fill up a bucket with water, but the bucket is filled with holes. You assume that spending more time together will help you understand each other more. I have to tell you this truth: over time, one simply has better skills to not reveal certain things and matters that get covered up between both of you will become more and more! A lady came and met me for the first time. She told me she was with her boyfriend for 8 years. And the second time she met with me again, I told her, "You can separate from your boyfriend. This year we will find someone for you and you can get married." Tears streamed down her eyes. After one week, she separated from her boyfriend. Now she is happily married, expecting a child, and happier than ever before! This lady later asked me, "How did you know I should separate with my boyfriend?" I understood what happened. She spent 8 years with her ex-boyfriend, but there was no end to it....
Read MoreHellen Chen’s LOVE-U-Forever Relationship Love Seminar
In January, I hosted my fifteenth Love Seminar in Los Angeles, USA. I am so humbled to have met such an amazing group of work professionals and couples. They all came from different backgrounds but they have one thing in common: they all shared similar values when it comes to love and personal improvement. Here are some incredible feedback from my students: I thought my problem had been my shyness with women. At this event, I found out even if I had met a "perfect" match, I would have a hard time to keep this relationship going. This event woke me up. Thanks for the very powerful info on not only how to approach women but also to make relationships last. -- Ken I loved the "practice session" in your event. I have been married for close to 10 years. There has been no major problems going on with my husband but here is where the problem lies, our relationship has no sparks or passion. You showed me what was missing -- I see it all started with my communication. I don't have to avoid saying certain things out of fear of upsetting my spouse. And I don't have to "try so hard" to be nice. By the way, I wish to say your love seminar is the only event I have come across (I have attended other events) that truly let attendees practice how to interact with people the correct way. Please keep me informed on your future events. -- June How I wished I had come across your seminar and materials 10 years ago!! I was the typical "busy working professional" who despite wanting to get married, kept on missing the boat. Some people envy me for my professional success and the money I make, but they never know my failures in relationships. You are the first person I met who truly helped me answer these questions: how do I find the right person and how do I know who is suitable for me? Thanks for such a clear direction! -- Angeline I am 51 this year and was divorced for many years. I went in and out of dating men and became very frustrated on why I could not find the right person. I started to wonder "what's wrong with me?" You showed me what really mattered to keep a relationship going. Thank you! -- Josephine My wife and I had a very serious fight recently and she was contemplating divorce. Your workshop sheds light for me what exactly deteriorated this relationship. It was not what I thought on how we had grown apart. You showed me how both of us could fully do what we love to do in life without "compromising" for each other. We could have different interests, different friends, etc and still find a solid common ground. Your event gave me tremendous hope. I now know how to be a better man for my wife! -- Jack I love what you taught at the event. I thought I had missed the time for finding a husband after raising 2 boys myself. I felt awkward dating and felt totally at a loss when a new date wanted to be intimate. You make having a lasting relationship SIMPLE again for me. I know now how to find my ideal mate. -- Madeline My workshop seminars have helped men and women from all around the world on how to experience their own “happily ever after.” I developed special relationships with my students throughout the years and I have witnessed the enormous growth in both their personal and professional lives. In case you have missed my last event, I am excited to be hosting my next Love Seminar workshop in Los Angeles on May 20, 2017. The topics I discuss in my workshops are unique and different to one another. I am always learning new skills and sharing what I have learned on what it takes to nurture and maintain meaningful relationships. Join us for our...
Read MoreKnowing How to Create Love: Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar
Love is a state of feeling pure, beautiful, positive and wonderful, and to feel "crazy" for the things you do. It's a high energy, and an uncontrollable feeling that is also playful and exciting. Love does not need to depend on another person but it can be created by oneself. Hellen gave another great seminar on how to love and be loved. Here are some incredible successes from our students: Hellen made it so clear how to create "LOVE." It is just pure stuff, and something one can be crazy for. I was thinking in the past how to make other people comfortable but now, I know it's a wrong direction. I have to make myself comfortable first, I can then pass on that feeling to another person. I'm going to practice giving "pure" love to everyone, and create love from my heart/mind. What a great seminar! A.W Today's seminar helped me to understand how to create the love feeling in my life. When I can causatively create the feeling of love, no matter who the person in front of me is, and no matter in which moment, love can be created. I can practice to demonstrate love in my marriage and towards my working partners. I can have a greater ability to love every single person who shows up in my life. I.C I am really impressed of how Hellen brought the group into a deep understanding -- a true understanding about love. I learn the importance of not mixing up the "love time" and "work time" in my marriage. I am also creating love, not affected by the condition or other people. This is the ability I will practice forever! I.W The definition of love shared at this event surprised me! What I could create for my spouse took on a whole new dimension! There are simply so many creative ways to create love! W.C Love is simple and pure. I had learned about love the wrong way, until the point that love became so complex and hard. Through this event, I recover the simple and pure feeling of love. T.P Hellen defined love so clearly and after doing the exercises in class, I realized I do have the ability to create love not just with a partner, but with any and everyone I meet. Thanks Hellen for a great class! 🙂 R.L After examining the love definition, I realized I did many actions in my relationship that has nothing to do with love! Love is created out from nothing to something that is sweet. When I am pure at heart, when I have no negativity, the vibes I give will be positive and will make another happy. Being comfortable and happy myself is important. To love and be loved is simple! Thanks! A.Z Love is natural. And being crazy about life is natural too. Love shows up in different forms. As long as it is pure and positive, it's beautiful. It does not matter which role you take on, as long as you can enjoy and indulge in that role, it is wonderful! I now understand what Hellen means by being a "life artist." I learn a lot today. I know how to fall in love even more! 🙂 W.W I don't have to ask my spouse to give me love or ask him, "Do you love me?" I simply need to tell him I love him and make him feel that I really love him. If I just do that, the love in our relationship will naturally grow and I will be the lucky recipient of our love. G.C Join us for our next Los Angeles event by clicking here! ...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s Love Seminar: You Can Experience the Love You Want
Hellen surprises the students of the 11th Love Seminar in Los Angeles with a big message: you can experience the love you want -- anytime! The students warm up to the lessons as Hellen demonstrated the "how-to." I learn that if I cannot love myself, I cannot love another person as well. -- D P Today this seminar helps me to break through a big wall. I can love my spouse "crazily" and also create the ideal relationship I want to the people around me. Thanks Hellen! -- C Falling in love is not just with a partner. I realized I can "fall in love" with myself, with my job, with my friends etc. It's the same! -- E.C If you cannot experience the "fall" as in "fall in love," there is no power, no craziness -- life is boring -- and of course there is no passion with any one! -- E.M I used to think that being passionate is something that I am not i.e, I am just not that type of person. But today I learn a very different lesson. I can give so much more! This changes my whole operating basis towards my life, my job and my family! -- S.W I came here to understand how to find the right partner. But I left the event with so much more understanding of how I can make any relationship "right." And it is all within my power to create! -- A.C You can experience the love story you dream about. You only need to know "HOW" Come and join us at the latest love seminar to pick up the lessons!...
Read More30 Day Matchmaker Miracle Telesummit
Join me and other top matchmakers in an exciting event to help you make your relationship goals come true! For 30 days starting Friday January 16th and ending on Valentine's Day February 14th the leading Matchmakers are all coming together in ONE place to talk with YOU! I will be speaking on Feb 1st 2015 Sunday. Time: 12pm-1pm (Los Angeles, California USA Pacific Standard Time) TOPIC: Marry Now...Date Later 90% of Dating Ends in Breakup Are you taking care of someone's future spouse? Many singles complain about "can't find the right person," what is a "right" person? How do you know if someone can be with you for the rest of your life? You can take part in this event on the internet or using a telephone -- no matter which part of the world you are at! Access by computer: http://www.30daymatchmakermiracle.com Access by dialing in: Primary dial in number: +1-425-440-5100 (USA number) Secondary dial in number: +1-818-922-0801 (USA number) Guest pin code: 640924# 30 Day Matchmaker Miracle Telesummit is organized by FinalMatch.com To learn more about the program, please click here ...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s 10th Love Seminar in LA Was a Great Success
[metaslider id=2394] Our Dec 27th 2014 seminar is our 10th seminar event in Los Angeles. Hellen brought up a very special viewpoint on "promotion." Business people know that marketing and promotion create sales and income. But how about in the area of love? How does one attract and find the right partner? In a marriage, how does one rekindle the passion to love no matter how many years one has been married? What I like most about today's seminar is learning how to promote myself to another person. I have never heard a speech on marriage that is so funny and effective! -- T.W I learned how to talk to my husband and make him feel loved. At the same time, I learn how to admire my good points and become more confident and comfortable with myself. I am more able to love myself. I am more able to love others. -- A.L I like the focus on "promotion." I have always hated to talk about myself but now I see how necessary it is. -- G.M With the exercises in the workshop, I increased so much more confidence about myself and I can enjoy talking about my good points. I am able to create attraction and feel more passionate and free. -- V.C. I see more and more of my good points. In the past, I always thought these "good points" are not important. So I tried to cover them up. Actually I do have good points which others don't have. Today I learn how to appreciate myself! I also find out the reason my relationship has not gone well is not because I am not attractive enough. But I have not let my other half know what I'm doing. This time I overcome the barrier of "promoting" myself. I increase my confidence, and thus also have a greater love to give to the people around me! -- A.C. To love and be loved is an ability! Learn more on how you can increase your ability to love! ...
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