Many people have asked me how a couple could keep up a marriage and still retain that 'in-love' feeling after many years. My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. Despite huge challenges, we have managed to love each other more and more as the years went by.
I share below one of the most recent 'love letter' I receive from my husband.
Finding each other has been one of the the best things that has happened in our lives.
|Holla Mia Esposa, [Hello My Wife]I just want to write you a small letter saying you that my life is only well if I know you are smiling.|
If you smile at me that is of course great, but mostly - mostly I am happy when I see you smile.
When you smile my job is done.
I know you are very powerful and can make yourself smile - but still - I think it is my biggest job as a husband to make you smile.
So, when I make you think I don't have confidence in you or criticize you, I know I fail at my most important job - because then you are not smiling.
Liebling [Sweetheart], just as you say you want to work to become better at talking to me nicer - I promise that I am working on doing the same.
I am so very happy that you give me space and time and forgiveness to improve.
After all, you are the better one of the two of us !!
That of course proves that I am the better one for choosing you - and you are not so good because you chose me.
So, honey - I love you enough and trust you totally - so IT IS OK to be "mad" at me.
I know that in the end you only mad at the moment for what happened - the action I did - but you don't stop loving me and trusting me!!
Yes, sweetie, we are growing together so much. We are maybe small potatoes, but we are hot potatoes!
Remember when we realized many years ago that this lifetime is an 'internship' for us? a learning journey?
I am very happy with our progress.
I agree with you that our life is incredibly wonderful -- even though I do miss holding you at night.
I know this is my creation because I decided to be far from Los Angeles and in another country !!
Otherwise we would be more together, but maybe this is a good example of living ALL aspects of life!
You know Pupe [doll], I believe our goals are super well-aligned !
And I just want to make sure that all my little ones know that I love them and want them just the way they are -- I do NOT WANT THEM TO CHANGE !!!