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Dubai: What a spectacular city!

Posted by on May 31, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

Dubai: What a spectacular city!

Dubai: What a spectacular city! A brand new culture of its own. A new style of living. It is a wonderful world of never-ending possibilities! Inspirational and emotional! Great!!!!!!! I am happy to join the action and experience in this new world! :)))))))                                                                                        ...

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Good morning Mumbai!

Posted by on May 31, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

Good morning Mumbai!

Goo d morning Mumbai! :)) 早安孟買! 🙂 When I know you, 我認識你時, You’re still called Bombay. 那時的你還是叫Bombay。 Now you grow up and shine as Mumbai! 現在的你發展成為閃亮的 Mumbai !! Hi Mumbai, 嗨孟買, I have left pieces of my heart here, with you! :)) 曾經我留下部分的心在這裏,跟著你! :)) This time I want to put it in the right place. 這一次,我要把他好好地放在對的地方。 So nice to see you again! 很高興再次見到你! It touches me so much when I see you from the sky. 當我從天空看到你時,我是多麼的感動! Love is in the air; 愛充滿在空中 My heart beats with excitement! 我的心興奮地跳動著! Hi Mumbai, 嗨孟買, So nice to share my life with you.  多麼的美好,可以與你分享我的生活。 This time we have an even better time… 這一次,我們有一個更美好的時光… I will leave my heart here anyway! 我會把我的心再次留在這裏! I love you — no matter if you are called Bombay or Mumbai! :))))))) 我愛你,無論你的名字是Bombay或Mumbai ! :)))))  ...

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For the good of someone you love

Posted by on Sep 30, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

For the good of someone you love

I know of a man who has a nice temperament and is very courteous. One time during social dancing, someone accidentally bumped into his partner at the dance floor. He stopped abruptly and gave the offender a hard slap! After he did that, he instantly “woke up” and apologized profusely. His behavior shocked everyone around him. When someone hurt his partner, the degree to which he would go crazy over it is something you would never witness under normal circumstances. He would rather get hurt than seeing his loved one be hurt. This has been my experience with many married couples. I often witness husbands and wives making sacrifices for the betterment of their other halves. Sometimes, those actions are not recognized by their partners — for years Even worse, some of those actions may not be what their spouse wants. Yet they keep on doing it — thinking that these actions were done out of love and thus their spouse “should know” about their good intentions. For example, a husband thinks that if he works long hours to make money, that means love. A wife may think that she is being a responsible wife by putting all her attention on kids, neglecting everything else. This is another major reason why I chose to lecture non-stop to men and women around the world about how to build and create a lasting relationship. Do you know what your spouse actually want? Do you know what you want? Loving and receiving love are abilities that could definitely be learned! I am excited that I will be seeing some of you at the love seminar event on Oct 24-25. Here are the details: For married individuals: How to Use the Strength of Marriage to Improve Your Career, Prosperity and Health? For singles ( or non-married): How to Be Smarter in Knowing Who is the Right Partner Without Another Disappointment?     To unlimited satisfaction in love, Hellen...

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Is Modern Dating a Waste of Time?

Posted by on Jun 2, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

Is Modern Dating a Waste of Time?

Modern dating has become a “revolving-door” situation where men and women change partners so often that in the end, they still could not find out who they should marry. I have spoken about not going through an endless dating game for singles but to practice “date after marriage.” That means, don’t waste your time to date for a long period of time, but to settle down with a partner that has the same marital goals as you. And work hard to keep up the romance after marriage. Taking Care of Another Person’s Future Spouse Most singles who are dating spent tremendous time and money to keep up the romantic actions to court a person. Guys like to shower the ladies with gifts and dinners. They went to pick up their girlfriends from work or accompany them to go shopping. Yet, if there is no marriage commitment in place, this dating has a high chance of breakup. All the money and time spent on this potential marital partner is wasted because comes next Valentine’s Day or birthday or Christmas, this person will no longer be in your life. I also termed this as “taking care of someone else’s wife.” Ladies have committed the same mistakes. Some ladies like to go to a guy’s place to help clean up his house or cook for them. Or they thought if they have a lot of sex, it would make the guy happy. But without a marriage commitment, these dating actions are in the same category of taking care of someone else’s husband. There are still only 2 ways dating relationships can go: A) It leads to  marriage.or B) It ends in  breakups. Sadly, I see most dating relationships — 85% or more — end in breakups. It does not matter how many years it takes in between, these 2 ways still have to happen eventually: marriage or breakup. Longer Dating Time Means Knowing a Person Better? Some singles have told me that they need time to know a person well — they like to be certain that this is the right person to marry. They would literally spend months and months and years and years to “get to know” someone. The truth is, people change over time. You change. Your partner will change. This change can come from various life’s instances: setbacks, successes, and many unknown factors not in your control nor prediction. We have known marriages to break up even after 10 or 20 years. So should someone wait 10 or 20 years to date the same person to really make sure the person is the right one? Unfortunately, the attitude of “can’t fail” is already a failure in itself. Let’s look back at our grandparents and their grandparents. Was dating such a long drawn-out complex activity for them? Was there an equivalent of an internet where one can do research on someone’s background before going on a date? The dating time has increased tremendously since the 1960s and dating has become more complex with the huge array of services and online tools yet divorce rates are going up the roof in modern times. In fact, here is more likely what is happening: the more a person try to “check out” a person, the more cautious and untrusting he or she gets with the relationship. “Is this new person going to break my heart as the last one?” will be the question that one carries forwards — unfairly or not — to the new partner. A person who gets his or her heart broken one too many times would have also developed a skill: looking at the faults of another with a magnifying glass. After a few failures, they now know one thing with strong conviction: there are no good men or women out there who are good enough for them. I don’t blame them. Few people can be as trusting as they like in their relationships after accumulating a few battle scars. But when such distrust carries forward into a real marriage, then the price to pay is often too high. How do I know WHO is the right one? Maybe this question of “How do I know WHO is the right one?” is not as important as this question: “Do I have...

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A Love Conversation With My Husband

Posted by on May 26, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

A Love Conversation With My Husband

My husband and I don’t always see each other as we both have jobs that take us to different parts of the world. Email and texts become our regular way of communication. Frequently, our conversation would be so touching I would cry. Below is a small thread of our recent conversation and what my husband wrote touches me so much! :))))) I am not only confident in me, but also super confident in YOU !!!! Love you, Fushing Reply: Thanks! And thanks for marrying me! Love, Taitai Super happy woman Liebling Sweetie, I love it that you love me. I love it that you believe in me. I love it that you trust me. I love it that you help me so so so much. But most of all I love that you are happy with your life:))) That you are happy with your work! That you love your ( our ) kids :))))) Honey, you could not be more perfect – not for me and not for the whole wide world!!!!! Sorry, when I am sometimes NOT able to talk to talk to you nicely, and instead criticize you :(( My criticizing is only my inability to communicate correctly – because I DO not have any reason to criticize you !! None whatsoever !!! Love you , Your forever “not forgetting you”...

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Marriage Expert Says Most People Missed the Vital Lessons to Make A Marriage Last — From High School

Posted by on May 18, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

Marriage Expert Says Most People Missed the Vital Lessons to Make A Marriage Last — From High School

Bestselling author Hellen Chen talks about the vital love lessons that are needed to make the relationship last day after day, year after year. Chen will be holding a seminar soon in Los Angeles and Taiwan. Last month at the Hilton Hotel in Los Angeles, matchmaker extraordinaire Hellen Chen talked to singles and married couples who had arrived for her love seminar about how to find the right match and how to keep the relationship fresh as the very first day. Bestselling author Chen was given the title of “The Matchmaker of the Century” by the couples she has helped because unlike conventional matchmakers, she would specially approach skeptical men and women who have resisted the idea of marriage or have given up on marriage. This year, the marriage rate in America is continuing its downward slide, with an all-time low in the number of American women getting married. According to the Census Bureau, for every 2-3 US marriages, there is a divorce. “Most people think about ‘what went wrong’ only after they have hit a brick wall in their marriages. But the problem starts way earlier,” said Chen. Indeed, Chen talked about the trend of parents spoiling their children when they are young — giving in to their every need. And as the children grew up, when their future spouse or partner refused to ‘spoil’ them the way their parents had, they would give up the relationship easily. Chen also talked about the missing love lessons which many young people have not learned as early as high school. Academic achievements and career achievements have been the focus of most education curriculum. The subtle art of interacting with the opposite sex becomes something a child has to figure out by himself. When he steps into the working world, he usually has “no time” to learn lessons beyond his job requirements. When one becomes older, those “love lessons” unfortunately do not automatically become acquired knowledge. “Usually, people learn negative lessons about relationships. They might have a couple of dating failures but the more they date, the more negative they would become. They know what is ‘bad’ about relationships but they never learn how to make it good.” said Chen. Chen encourages parents to help their children learn about relationships in healthy ways when they are young, and not delay such education until a later time — which usually never comes about as career pressure forces men and women to place more emphasis on other types of skills. A father of three came to Chen’s seminar on Saturday with two of his teenage sons. After the seminar, Kamran said, “My sons enjoyed the seminar. I am happy they came to learn these lessons at their age. For myself who has been married for close to 20 years, I learned how to make my marriage deeper and better.” Chen compares the learning of marriage principles to learning a new sport or practicing a new skill. “We do not expect to know how to drive a car well without having taken some driving lessons and have practiced driving. It does not matter how great of a car or how easy the road is. We still need to practice. Why would someone expect to have a perfect lasting relationship without knowing how to be a good wife or husband?” said Chen. “We have not planned to fail in relationships. But most of us have failed to plan how to make the relationship last day after day, year after year.” Chen told the audience. Chen will be holding her next seminar on May 23 in Los Angeles and then will head to Taiwan for an event on June 6. Chen’s work has been featured in over 200 media publications in 18...

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…the most important decision you have made

Posted by on May 18, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

…the most important decision you have made

Bill Gates did a TV interview in China where the host asked him: what was the smartest decision he has made in his life? Was it creating Microsoft or engaging in philanthropic endeavors? He said none of the above. He said the smartest decision he has made is to marry his wife. Warren Buffet has made a very similar comment that marrying his wife is the best thing he has done. I have worked with top CEOs around the world and as their management consultant, I have helped them to increase their bottom line in their businesses. Yet, when I asked about their personal wishes especially after  they have made more money, they would say things like, “I wish I can experience a deeper love” and “I wish I can get along better with my children.” I have seen many working adults putting aside love and marriage, because they are “too busy” pursuing a career. As some get closer to retirement, they feel something has been left out of their life. There is no right and wrong “rule.” I don’t believe that perfection and “having it all” and “keeping up with obligations and responsibilities” are the items all of us must pursue. However, a very important question I believe one can ask will be: am I truly satisfied? I will talk about how to obtain satisfaction in love in my upcoming seminars: Love Seminar in Los Angeles May 23  Love Seminar in Taiwan June...

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How I became a friend to myself

Posted by on May 11, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

How I became a friend to myself

My best friend attempted suicide and later would never talk to me again. She was my best friend in college.  We studied together, played together and spent lots of time at each other’s place. Sometimes my mom and brother would even mistaken her for me. We were so close like sisters. One day, she told me she wanted to kill herself. I panicked. And tried to talked her out of it. She kept talking about it and this type of suicide talk lasted for one to two years, and she never gave up talking about suicide. I was exhausted. I had my share of problems in my life at that time and I started to ignore what she said. I told myself, “It’s crazy talk” and I should leave it as that. One day, her mom rushed to my place and told me, she attempted suicide and was sent to the hospital. Before that day, my friend had already told me how she had planned her suicide — how she would check into a hotel, with a bottle of liquor and sleeping pills, and how she would instruct the hotel staff not to interrupt her while she can take her own life. I did not pay attention — I had listened to her talking about suicide for thousands of times! She did not die. The hospital staff revived her. But after that, she totally changed. Her personality changed and when I would visit her, she became very cold. One day, she said, “Let’s stop seeing each other” and I would never talk to or see her ever again. I was devastated. I only thought about the things I could have done to help her. And in my mind, I kept thinking “I did not do enough.”  I kept thinking that maybe she expected me to stop her or expected me to help her get out of her pain, and that I had failed completely. I felt guilty and remorseful I had let this happened. I have lost one of my very best friends in life. This grief stayed with me for many years. As I study, learn and help myself continuously, I finally understand the mistakes I have made in this relationship. In addition to recognizing how much more I could contribute to this relationship, I realize a bigger truth: I was not honest. I did not tell her I could not stand her suicide talk, and that I had no energy left to keep on trying to stop her and I had no inclination to live a pessimistic life with her. If she had known about my true feelings in the beginning, she would not have hated me for not stopping her suicide. I still feel sad to lose her as a friend. But through this incident, I have at least helped myself as a friend! I see this in marriages and I see this in familial relationships. We think that it is better to “lie” because of not wanting to hurt our loved ones.  But we live with untruths — and we betray our own feelings. We feel regretful and remorseful for not giving enough. We have neglected others. Yet, the biggest neglect usually is towards ourselves. When I created the Love Seminar, I have wanted to teach men and women to experience a richer relationship with their loved ones. But there is one more reason why I design it. That is, I wish to teach an individual how to be the best friend to himself or herself. Your spouse or friend or partner or parents or a bigger salary or a bigger house cannot take away the wounds and pain you have experienced in your life. This is also why changing a partner as in a divorce does not always solve the problem. There is only one person who can dissolve the pain: YOU. And it starts by willing to become the best supporter, the best friend you can be — towards yourself! The journey of non-stop self-improvement is the very best journey I have embarked...

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Love is an ability that can be learned, says relationship expert Hellen Chen

Posted by on Apr 28, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

Love is an ability that can be learned, says relationship expert Hellen Chen

Three times #1 bestselling author and relationship master Hellen Chen has helped at least 100 singles who had been skeptical about marriage to find their true love and to walk down the aisle. With a philosophy that love is an “ability” that can be improved, she travels the world to counsel singles and couples on what it takes to keep a relationship lasting and deep. Her popular Love Seminar will be coming to Los Angeles at the Hilton Hotel on May 23 Saturday. A statement that Chen has heard over and over again from men and women who were unhappy in their relationships has been “If only my partner can change for me…” “Many singles think that their biggest problem is not able to meet the right person. But the more precise reason is they don’t even know who the right person is.” said Chen, “They know what kind of person they like or dislike. However, it does not mean the person they like is right for them.” “Many men and women entered into marriage with the idea that they could change the behavior of their partner.” Chen added, “That’s wrongful thinking and the relationship often ends up in disaster.” She encouraged singles to not spend time and money and energy to go around dating but to look for someone who seriously want to enter marriage. When asked about why dating a lot to find the right partner does not work, Chen explained in a recent Fox TV interview, “When people date a lot before they get married, their hearts get broken once too often and these bad experiences accumulate. These bad experiences even carry into their marriage and the moment they encounter seemingly insurmountable hardships in the relationship, they break-off easily as they think the next gal or guy would be better.” According to Chen, a marriage is not about what another person could give to self but a chance for self to learn how to give to another. Believing that most individuals do want a loving relationship, Chen started lecturing and writing books about the subject. As a bestselling author, she has written 25 books and her book “The Matchmaker of the Century” and “Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar” became number one bestsellers in relationship books at Barnes and Noble. Chen’s works in family, marriage and personal developments are featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. She has been a frequent guest on independent and network radio and TV shows on FOX, CBS, NBC and ABC etc. To help singles and couples develop the ability to love, Chen has released a whole series of love workshops in Asia and in America. This upcoming event “Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar” on Saturday May 23 at Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city is the 12th workshop Chen will be conducting in Los Angeles. For more information about the workshop, please contact 800-912-0510 or visit...

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Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar: You Can Experience the Love You Want

Posted by on Mar 24, 2015 in Articles, Blog, Events | 0 comments

Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar: You Can Experience the Love You Want

Hellen surprises the students of the 11th Love Seminar in Los Angeles with a big message: you can experience the love you want — anytime! The students warm up to the lessons as Hellen demonstrated the “how-to.” I learn that if I cannot love myself, I cannot love another person as well. — D P Today this seminar helps me to break through a big wall. I can love my spouse “crazily” and also create the ideal relationship I want to the people around me. Thanks Hellen! — C Falling in love is not just with a partner. I realized I can “fall in love” with myself, with my job, with my friends etc. It’s the same!  — E.C If you cannot experience the “fall” as in “fall in love,” there is no power, no craziness — life is boring — and of course there is no passion with any one! — E.M I used to think that being passionate is something that I am not i.e, I am just not that type of person. But today I learn a very different lesson. I can give so much more! This changes my whole operating basis towards my life, my job and my family! —  S.W I came here to understand how to find the right partner. But I left the event with so much more understanding of how I can make any relationship “right.” And it is all within my power to create! — A.C   You can experience the love story you dream about. You only need to know “HOW” Come and join us at the latest love seminar to pick up the lessons!...

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Do you have the ability to reach your dream?

Posted by on Feb 26, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

Is it really true that the problem that you have in a marriage or any relationships happen because of your partner? And if you change your partner, it will be “all fine?” Watch this video: Many men and women have attended the Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar and improved their ability to love. Here are some of the successes shared by attendees: I learn that I need to treat my partner the way that I need him to be, In this way he can become the way I want him to be.  – A.N I was afraid that I would never find anyone who would let me be as free as I am. Today, I know that this is absolutely not true and I will be able to have a relationship that allows me to be free and also make the other person feel the same way. — F.K Thank you Hellen! Please do visit again and attend my wedding because never in my life I have felt as optimistic and happy about getting married as I do today! –K.K I learned how to be able to receive love and communicate what I want clearly and express my emotion, without the fear of being rejected. Thank you Hellen! 🙂 – M.A Today I learn it’s good to be aggressive with your partner when you really want to commit for a marriage. It’s important to make and act on decisions as decisions means evolution and improvement. — Alex I learn today how to talk about my feelings and how to express it more efficiently. — A. M Increase Your Ability to Love and Be Loved Join the next Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar...

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Who is Your Ideal Match?

Posted by on Feb 9, 2015 in Blog, Interviews | 0 comments

Many people have a picture of the type of person they like to meet, and the qualities they like to see in another person. Hellen talks about why they may have a hard time to find that “perfect match” in this interview and what a better approach would be: Hellen Chen is an international speaker, bestselling author and has been called the “Matchmaker Of the Century” by the couples she has helped brought together. Her work on marriage and relationships has been featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE.    Other Topics: How to Keep Up the Passion in a Relationship When the Going Gets Tough in a...

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How to Keep Up the Passion in a Relationship?

Posted by on Feb 9, 2015 in Blog, In the Press, Interviews | 0 comments

Is there a magic formula for keeping up the passion in a relationship? How do you have that in-love feeling when things are not going well between you and your other half? Listen to the interview below:   If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE. Announcement: How do you find your “perfect” match? How do you have a happy marriage?  Attend Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar and get your answers. Click here to find the next event!...

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When the going gets tough in a relationship…

Posted by on Feb 7, 2015 in Articles, Blog | 0 comments

When the going gets tough in a relationship…

Do these sound familiar? “He/she changed after we get married.” “We started off well but as time goes by, I realize he is not who I thought I want to fall in love with.” “I think the next relationship will be better.” Life is not always a bed of roses. What should you do when the going gets tough in a relationship? Will changing partners solve the problem you are running into? Listen to Hellen’s insights:     If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE. Announcement: How do you find your “perfect” match? How do you have a happy marriage?  Attend Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar and get your answers. Click here to find the next event!    ...

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30 Day Matchmaker Miracle Telesummit

Posted by on Jan 28, 2015 in Blog, Events | 0 comments

30 Day Matchmaker Miracle Telesummit

Join me and other top matchmakers in an exciting event to help you make your relationship goals come true! For 30 days starting Friday January 16th and ending on Valentine’s Day February 14th the leading Matchmakers are all coming together in ONE place to talk with YOU! I will be speaking on Feb 1st 2015 Sunday. Time: 12pm-1pm (Los Angeles, California USA Pacific Standard Time) TOPIC: Marry Now…Date Later  90% of Dating Ends in Breakup Are you taking care of someone’s future spouse? Many singles complain about “can’t find the right person,” what is a “right” person?  How do you know if someone can be with you for the rest of your life?  You can take part in this event on the internet or using a telephone — no matter which part of the world you are at! Access by computer: http://www.30daymatchmakermiracle.com Access by dialing in: Primary dial in number: +1-425-440-5100 (USA number) Secondary dial in number: +1-818-922-0801  (USA number) Guest pin code:  640924#   30 Day Matchmaker Miracle Telesummit is organized by FinalMatch.com To learn more about the program, please click here    ...

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