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How I became a friend to myself
My best friend attempted suicide and later would never talk to me again. She was my best friend in college. We studied together, played together and spent lots of time at each other's place. Sometimes my mom and brother would even mistaken her for me. We were so close like sisters. One day, she told me she wanted to kill herself. I panicked. And tried to talked her out of it. She kept talking about it and this type of suicide talk lasted for one to two years, and she never gave up talking about suicide. I was exhausted. I had my share of problems in my life at that time and I started to ignore what she said. I told myself, "It's crazy talk" and I should leave it as that. One day, her mom rushed to my place and told me, she attempted suicide and was sent to the hospital. Before that day, my friend had already told me how she had planned her suicide -- how she would check into a hotel, with a bottle of liquor and sleeping pills, and how she would instruct the hotel staff not to interrupt her while she can take her own life. I did not pay attention -- I had listened to her talking about suicide for thousands of times! She did not die. The hospital staff revived her. But after that, she totally changed. Her personality changed and when I would visit her, she became very cold. One day, she said, "Let's stop seeing each other" and I would never talk to or see her ever again. I was devastated. I only thought about the things I could have done to help her. And in my mind, I kept thinking "I did not do enough." I kept thinking that maybe she expected me to stop her or expected me to help her get out of her pain, and that I had failed completely. I felt guilty and remorseful I had let this happened. I have lost one of my very best friends in life. This grief stayed with me for many years. As I study, learn and help myself continuously, I finally understand the mistakes I have made in this relationship. In addition to recognizing how much more I could contribute to this relationship, I realize a bigger truth: I was not honest. I did not tell her I could not stand her suicide talk, and that I had no energy left to keep on trying to stop her and I had no inclination to live a pessimistic life with her. If she had known about my true feelings in the beginning, she would not have hated me for not stopping her suicide. I still feel sad to lose her as a friend. But through this incident, I have at least helped myself as a friend! I see this in marriages and I see this in familial relationships. We think that it is better to "lie" because of not wanting to hurt our loved ones. But we live with untruths -- and we betray our own feelings. We feel regretful and remorseful for not giving enough. We have neglected others. Yet, the biggest neglect usually is towards ourselves. When I created the Love Seminar, I have wanted to teach men and women to experience a richer relationship with their loved ones. But there is one more reason why I design it. That is, I wish to teach an individual how to be the best friend to himself or herself. Your spouse or friend or partner or parents or a bigger salary or a bigger house cannot take away the wounds and pain you have experienced in your life. This is also why changing a partner as in a divorce does not always solve the problem. There is only one person who can dissolve the pain: YOU. And it starts by willing to become the best supporter, the best friend you can be -- towards yourself! The journey of non-stop self-improvement is the very best journey I have embarked...
Read MoreLove is an ability that can be learned, says relationship expert Hellen Chen
Three times #1 bestselling author and relationship master Hellen Chen has helped at least 100 singles who had been skeptical about marriage to find their true love and to walk down the aisle. With a philosophy that love is an "ability" that can be improved, she travels the world to counsel singles and couples on what it takes to keep a relationship lasting and deep. Her popular Love Seminar will be coming to Los Angeles at the Hilton Hotel on May 23 Saturday. A statement that Chen has heard over and over again from men and women who were unhappy in their relationships has been "If only my partner can change for me..." "Many singles think that their biggest problem is not able to meet the right person. But the more precise reason is they don't even know who the right person is." said Chen, "They know what kind of person they like or dislike. However, it does not mean the person they like is right for them." "Many men and women entered into marriage with the idea that they could change the behavior of their partner." Chen added, "That's wrongful thinking and the relationship often ends up in disaster." She encouraged singles to not spend time and money and energy to go around dating but to look for someone who seriously want to enter marriage. When asked about why dating a lot to find the right partner does not work, Chen explained in a recent Fox TV interview, "When people date a lot before they get married, their hearts get broken once too often and these bad experiences accumulate. These bad experiences even carry into their marriage and the moment they encounter seemingly insurmountable hardships in the relationship, they break-off easily as they think the next gal or guy would be better." According to Chen, a marriage is not about what another person could give to self but a chance for self to learn how to give to another. Believing that most individuals do want a loving relationship, Chen started lecturing and writing books about the subject. As a bestselling author, she has written 25 books and her book "The Matchmaker of the Century" and "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" became number one bestsellers in relationship books at Barnes and Noble. Chen's works in family, marriage and personal developments are featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. She has been a frequent guest on independent and network radio and TV shows on FOX, CBS, NBC and ABC etc. To help singles and couples develop the ability to love, Chen has released a whole series of love workshops in Asia and in America. This upcoming event "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" on Saturday May 23 at Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city is the 12th workshop Chen will be conducting in Los Angeles. For more information about the workshop, please contact 800-912-0510 or visit...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s Love Seminar: You Can Experience the Love You Want
Hellen surprises the students of the 11th Love Seminar in Los Angeles with a big message: you can experience the love you want -- anytime! The students warm up to the lessons as Hellen demonstrated the "how-to." I learn that if I cannot love myself, I cannot love another person as well. -- D P Today this seminar helps me to break through a big wall. I can love my spouse "crazily" and also create the ideal relationship I want to the people around me. Thanks Hellen! -- C Falling in love is not just with a partner. I realized I can "fall in love" with myself, with my job, with my friends etc. It's the same! -- E.C If you cannot experience the "fall" as in "fall in love," there is no power, no craziness -- life is boring -- and of course there is no passion with any one! -- E.M I used to think that being passionate is something that I am not i.e, I am just not that type of person. But today I learn a very different lesson. I can give so much more! This changes my whole operating basis towards my life, my job and my family! -- S.W I came here to understand how to find the right partner. But I left the event with so much more understanding of how I can make any relationship "right." And it is all within my power to create! -- A.C You can experience the love story you dream about. You only need to know "HOW" Come and join us at the latest love seminar to pick up the lessons!...
Read MoreDo you have the ability to reach your dream?
Is it really true that the problem that you have in a marriage or any relationships happen because of your partner? And if you change your partner, it will be "all fine?" Watch this video: Many men and women have attended the Hellen Chen's Love Seminar and improved their ability to love. Here are some of the successes shared by attendees: I learn that I need to treat my partner the way that I need him to be, In this way he can become the way I want him to be. - A.N I was afraid that I would never find anyone who would let me be as free as I am. Today, I know that this is absolutely not true and I will be able to have a relationship that allows me to be free and also make the other person feel the same way. -- F.K Thank you Hellen! Please do visit again and attend my wedding because never in my life I have felt as optimistic and happy about getting married as I do today! --K.K I learned how to be able to receive love and communicate what I want clearly and express my emotion, without the fear of being rejected. Thank you Hellen! 🙂 - M.A Today I learn it's good to be aggressive with your partner when you really want to commit for a marriage. It's important to make and act on decisions as decisions means evolution and improvement. -- Alex I learn today how to talk about my feelings and how to express it more efficiently. -- A. M Increase Your Ability to Love and Be Loved Join the next Hellen Chen's Love Seminar...
Read MoreWho is Your Ideal Match?
Many people have a picture of the type of person they like to meet, and the qualities they like to see in another person. Hellen talks about why they may have a hard time to find that "perfect match" in this interview and what a better approach would be: Hellen Chen is an international speaker, bestselling author and has been called the "Matchmaker Of the Century" by the couples she has helped brought together. Her work on marriage and relationships has been featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE. Other Topics: How to Keep Up the Passion in a Relationship When the Going Gets Tough in a...
Read MoreHow to Keep Up the Passion in a Relationship?
Is there a magic formula for keeping up the passion in a relationship? How do you have that in-love feeling when things are not going well between you and your other half? Listen to the interview below: If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE. Announcement: How do you find your "perfect" match? How do you have a happy marriage? Attend Hellen Chen's Love Seminar and get your answers. Click here to find the next event!...
Read MoreWhen the going gets tough in a relationship…
Do these sound familiar? "He/she changed after we get married." "We started off well but as time goes by, I realize he is not who I thought I want to fall in love with." "I think the next relationship will be better." Life is not always a bed of roses. What should you do when the going gets tough in a relationship? Will changing partners solve the problem you are running into? Listen to Hellen's insights: If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE. Announcement: How do you find your "perfect" match? How do you have a happy marriage? Attend Hellen Chen's Love Seminar and get your answers. Click here to find the next event! ...
Read More30 Day Matchmaker Miracle Telesummit
Join me and other top matchmakers in an exciting event to help you make your relationship goals come true! For 30 days starting Friday January 16th and ending on Valentine's Day February 14th the leading Matchmakers are all coming together in ONE place to talk with YOU! I will be speaking on Feb 1st 2015 Sunday. Time: 12pm-1pm (Los Angeles, California USA Pacific Standard Time) TOPIC: Marry Now...Date Later 90% of Dating Ends in Breakup Are you taking care of someone's future spouse? Many singles complain about "can't find the right person," what is a "right" person? How do you know if someone can be with you for the rest of your life? You can take part in this event on the internet or using a telephone -- no matter which part of the world you are at! Access by computer: http://www.30daymatchmakermiracle.com Access by dialing in: Primary dial in number: +1-425-440-5100 (USA number) Secondary dial in number: +1-818-922-0801 (USA number) Guest pin code: 640924# 30 Day Matchmaker Miracle Telesummit is organized by FinalMatch.com To learn more about the program, please click here ...
Read MoreHow to give love and how to get love? Los Angeles Love Seminar Oct 25th
Hellen gets the audience to put their thinking cap on with her first question: What is the most important thing in life? The energy of the room rises 100 notches and higher when attendees realize they have received the "secret" to not just a loving relationship but to a happy life! Success Story Love Seminar Oct 25 "I cried when I see how much my husband want me to be happy. And I understand why he supports me so much. He knows when I break through and improve, I will be super happy ! I also see my goal in life so clearly and at this seminar, I learn how I can achieve this goal through my daily actions! I feel more comfortable when I am with others, and I love people even more! This seminar is amazing! -- KL, Sales Executive "I see how life is simple -- because I become certain of my goal in life and the way to attain it. I clearly see how I have wasted time and energy in the past. From today onwards, I will use full energy towards the "right" places to swiftly attain my dreams." - F.W, TaiChi Master "This seminar resolved my problems in my marriage! I used to think my spouse created such problems which I am helpless to resolve. But now I know the problem is actually on me! I do have a good marriage. I simply need to enjoy it and improve myself at the same time." -- S.C, Supervisor "What I like best about the seminar is how Hellen focuses on the basics of marriage and how it ties in with happiness and the goal in life. I learn that if I do not improve myself, there is simply no happiness to enjoy! I am very energized and touched by what Hellen demonstrated and presented!" -- J.T, Single Mom "I finally know how to fall in love with myself. I appreciate what others do for me and can see the good qualities of others. I now understand how to love others. I will be improving my ability to love from this point onwards. My future is filled with hope and happiness! :)" -- A.C, Teacher "I learn how to channel my energy towards the right areas of life, especially on my goals. When I can lift another person up through my communication, I get positive energy back! I must learn how to present myself confidently and never waste my time anymore, so that I can achieve my goals!" -- C.H, Marketing Exec "Hellen helps me to sort out what is my goal, what do I care most in life. There is no time to complain and be critical because there are too many good things to enjoy and catch in life -- there is simply no time for bad things." -- T.H, Consultant "I have never thought my own improvement will create happiness for 2 persons in a relationship. Hellen teaches me the basic mechanics of how to be in a successful loving relationship. I can enjoy love and grow old happily with my better half!" -- Sal Z, Admin Executive ...
Read MoreThe True Love & Happy Marriage Seminar Completion Sep. 6 2014
Thanks to all who came to my Sep 6 2014 Love Seminar in Los Angeles. It was so great to see everyone! Wow! We had a great time, didn't we? Thanks for your feedback and acknowledgements! I like to share below the touching success stories which the attendees have mentioned: Love Seminar success stories I had thought I was a hopeless case for marriage. Hellen showed me I can break through the limitations I have imposed on myself. I feel a surge of new energy to confront the future. -- J. S. Sales Executive I wish I have attended this class many years ago. I see what I was missing in my past relationships. I highly recommend the love seminar for those who want a happy lasting relationship. --- N. B Consultant When Hellen spoke about the biggest mistake women make in a relationship, I knew this mistake has created lots of hardship in my current relationship. Thanks to Hellen, I now know how to create more love and happiness with my partner! -- J. C Business Owner After I have retired, I have become too lazy to socialize and meet people. Hellen woke me up to the fact I was not living life anymore. Ｉlike to make myself more attractive and seek love! -- E. H Retired Bank Manager I have read many books and attended seminars on the subject of love. I did not think I would learn anything from this seminar. Boy, am I surprised! I cannot wait to go and use the techniques learned here towards my search for my soul mate! -- A. A Fashion Designer After marriage and with the birth of a son, my husband and I drifted apart. This seminar taught me the importance of keeping up the passion in a marriage. Thanks Hellen! You gave me a very clear road I could travel on -- a road of self-betterment and thus happiness! -- V. F Secretary I used to think that marriage is simply being together and try to get along with each other from day to day. I have never thought about building a future together. I know my next marriage will be very different because of what I learn today -- Y. C Marketing...
Read MoreHow do you get a “good” relationship?
I have marked down the key points I talked about in the video so you can get to those section faster: Why if you try so hard to look for perfection, you will be "trapped"? (1:19) What is going on when someone wants a divorce? (2:11) When a relationship has become boring, what is really happening? (3:15) How do you get a "good" relationship? (3:53) What happen after you fall in love? How do you keep up the relationship? (4:10) Love is simple. There are no reasons needed. (4:25) The love seminar teaches you all you need to know about LOVE. See you soon at the next event HERE. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me HERE. Love,...
Read MoreHow do I know that my marriage will be everlasting and never fail?
This is a question asked of me by many singles and also by men or women who felt they had not made it in past relationships. Most of us would like someone to love us unconditionally. Most of us think that if we can find that "perfect" partner, our problems will be solved. But very few people want to learn how to love another unconditionally. Even fewer people strive to become the "perfect" partner for another. This is indeed not easy. But do you know? Giving and loving unconditionally is an ability that can be learned and practiced! It is just like running a business. Do you think there is such a thing as a "failure-proof" business? No, of course not. Even the Titantic, which was deemed as unsinkable, did not survive its maiden voyage. But one can learn how to run a successful business. One can learn from past relationship mistakes and find out what one has done wrong, and practice how to make it go right in the future. Mostly, one MUST stay true to one's goal and never believe there is no hope and no possible happiness in relationships. There is no such a thing as failure. The only failure comes when one gives up going after his goals. I have conducted Love Seminars for men and women who are striving to achieve more happiness in relationships for several years. I have given over a thousand lectures as a speaker around the world. I have helped many individuals to resolve relationship problems. Here are the main key points: If you know the answers to your questions, you won't feel it is unsolvable. If you can solve them, you will feel confident that you can enjoy a lasting and happy relationship. So, get going in your own learning! Here is a great Love Manual you must read if you wish to succeed in your relationships: http://matchmakerofthecentury.com/books/hellen-chens-love-seminar-book/ Come and visit me personally at these events: Los Angeles - September 6, 2014 Dubai - September 26-27, 2014 Love,...
Read MoreLove is an Ability: July 19 Seminar by Relationship Master Hellen Chen
Three times #1 bestselling author and relationship master Hellen Chen has helped at least 100 singles who had been skeptical about marriage to find their true love and to walk down the aisle. With a philosophy that love is an "ability" that can be improved, she travels the world to counsel singles and couples on what it takes to keep a relationship lasting and deep. Her popular Love Seminar will be coming to Los Angeles at the Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city on July 19th Saturday. A statement that Chen has heard over and over again from men and women who were unhappy in their relationships has been "If only my partner can change for me..." "Many singles think that their biggest problem is not able to meet the right person. But the more precise reason is they don't even know who is the right person." said Chen, "They know what kind of person they like or dislike. However, this is no measurement of whether the person they like is right for them." "Many men and women entered into marriage with the idea that they could change the behavior of their partner." Chen added, "That's wrongful thinking and the relationship often ends up in disaster." She encouraged singles to not spend time and money and energy to go around dating but to look for someone who seriously want to enter marriage. When asked about why dating a lot to find the right partner does not work, Chen explained in a recent Fox TV interview, "When people date a lot before they get married, their hearts get broken once too often and these bad experiences accumulate. These bad experiences even carry into their marriage and the moment they encounter seemingly insurmountable hardships in the relationship, they break-off easily as they think the next gal or guy would be better." According to Chen, a marriage is not about what another person could give to self but a chance for self to learn how to give to another. Believing that most individuals do want a loving relationship, Chen started lecturing and writing books about the subject. As a bestselling author, she has written 25 books and her book "The Matchmaker of the Century" and "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" became number one bestsellers in relationship books at Barnes and Noble. Chen's works in family, marriage and personal developments are featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. She has been a frequent guest on independent and network radio and TV shows on FOX, CBS, NBC and ABC etc. To help singles and couples develop the ability to love, Chen has released a whole series of love workshops in Asia and in America. This upcoming event "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" on Saturday July 19 at Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city is the 7th workshop Chen will be conducting in Los...
Read MoreHappy Birthday!
June is my birthday month. My staff and friends arranged a wonderful birthday party for me. They performed, sang and danced – and the babies celebrated for me too! As another milestone reached, I have just finished my next 3 book series “the Art of Communication.” I have never imagined myself to be a writer. Having published over 2 million words, I feel this writing journey has been gratifying and I have grown to appreciate the art of writing even more! Thanks for your support in buying and reading my books! This is my recent bestseller on Barnes And Noble: http://matchmakerofthecentury.com/schools-teach-10-important-lessons-life/ Announcement --here are our upcoming Love Seminar dates: Love Seminar in Singapore Love Seminar in Los Angeles Love Seminar in Taiwan Love Seminar in Dubai ( September 26 and 27th. Details to be announced) ...
Read MoreHaving a Degree Vs Having the Ability to Succeed: What Schools Don’t Teach Us
Last year, an article titled “Only 150 of 3500 US Colleges Are Worth the Investment” ran on Yahoo news and it garnered over 6000 comments online. The findings came from a book from former Secretary of Education William Bennett where he spoke about why getting a college degree today may not be worth it and why Americans should not just keep sending kids to colleges without serious consideration on the ROI. Bestselling author and management consultant Hellen Chen, who has trained and consulted top CEOs around the world and helped many colleges graduates to have working skills, gave her first-hand experience. “This may be the inconvenient truth. But in most professions, the resultant success of a person’s career has very little to do with which school a person graduates from and what degree he has.” Said Chen, after having worked with professionals from different fields in different countries in 20 years. As a CEO herself, Chen has hired various staff of different experiences and background. Some staff has not even graduated high school and some has had top degrees from prestigious universities. “It is not true that having no degree means the individual can do only mundane work and having a degree automatically makes a person the top producer. The exam system in school is simply just its own system. One may pass the exam by memorization but in actual work place, the actual skills needed are production skills, not examination skills.” Chen commented. In an interview from Los Angeles, Chen spoke about the misconception which parents have towards schooling. Chen said, “Parents naturally would like their children to do well in life. But getting a college degree is so far from any guarantee of success. Many of our young generation unfortunately follow the same mindset and thus after spending time and lots of money in colleges, they get very disappointed when they stepped into the workforce.” “There is a value of course to formal education. We need skills like reading and writing etc. But if one does not know what one wants out of schooling and just follow the crowd, one would have invested in vain with literally nothing in return.” Chen said. Chen’s new book titled “What Schools Don’t Teach You: 10 Most Important Lessons For Life” will be released in May on Barnes and Noble. Chen has written 22 books on the subject of career success, personal success, plus marriage and family success. As a consultant, she has been on over 200 media interviews in 20 countries interviewed on life issues. Chen has also been invited in Asia and in America to conduct seminars about productivity, life success and relationship...
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