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…the most important decision you have made
Bill Gates did a TV interview in China where the host asked him: what was the smartest decision he has made in his life? Was it creating Microsoft or engaging in philanthropic endeavors? He said none of the above. He said the smartest decision he has made is to marry his wife. Warren Buffet has made a very similar comment that marrying his wife is the best thing he has done. I have worked with top CEOs around the world and as their management consultant, I have helped them to increase their bottom line in their businesses. Yet, when I asked about their personal wishes especially after they have made more money, they would say things like, "I wish I can experience a deeper love" and "I wish I can get along better with my children." I have seen many working adults putting aside love and marriage, because they are "too busy" pursuing a career. As some get closer to retirement, they feel something has been left out of their life. There is no right and wrong "rule." I don't believe that perfection and "having it all" and "keeping up with obligations and responsibilities" are the items all of us must pursue. However, a very important question I believe one can ask will be: am I truly satisfied? I will talk about how to obtain satisfaction in love in my upcoming seminars: Love Seminar in Los Angeles May 23 Love Seminar in Taiwan June...
Read MoreHow I became a friend to myself
My best friend attempted suicide and later would never talk to me again. She was my best friend in college. We studied together, played together and spent lots of time at each other's place. Sometimes my mom and brother would even mistaken her for me. We were so close like sisters. One day, she told me she wanted to kill herself. I panicked. And tried to talked her out of it. She kept talking about it and this type of suicide talk lasted for one to two years, and she never gave up talking about suicide. I was exhausted. I had my share of problems in my life at that time and I started to ignore what she said. I told myself, "It's crazy talk" and I should leave it as that. One day, her mom rushed to my place and told me, she attempted suicide and was sent to the hospital. Before that day, my friend had already told me how she had planned her suicide -- how she would check into a hotel, with a bottle of liquor and sleeping pills, and how she would instruct the hotel staff not to interrupt her while she can take her own life. I did not pay attention -- I had listened to her talking about suicide for thousands of times! She did not die. The hospital staff revived her. But after that, she totally changed. Her personality changed and when I would visit her, she became very cold. One day, she said, "Let's stop seeing each other" and I would never talk to or see her ever again. I was devastated. I only thought about the things I could have done to help her. And in my mind, I kept thinking "I did not do enough." I kept thinking that maybe she expected me to stop her or expected me to help her get out of her pain, and that I had failed completely. I felt guilty and remorseful I had let this happened. I have lost one of my very best friends in life. This grief stayed with me for many years. As I study, learn and help myself continuously, I finally understand the mistakes I have made in this relationship. In addition to recognizing how much more I could contribute to this relationship, I realize a bigger truth: I was not honest. I did not tell her I could not stand her suicide talk, and that I had no energy left to keep on trying to stop her and I had no inclination to live a pessimistic life with her. If she had known about my true feelings in the beginning, she would not have hated me for not stopping her suicide. I still feel sad to lose her as a friend. But through this incident, I have at least helped myself as a friend! I see this in marriages and I see this in familial relationships. We think that it is better to "lie" because of not wanting to hurt our loved ones. But we live with untruths -- and we betray our own feelings. We feel regretful and remorseful for not giving enough. We have neglected others. Yet, the biggest neglect usually is towards ourselves. When I created the Love Seminar, I have wanted to teach men and women to experience a richer relationship with their loved ones. But there is one more reason why I design it. That is, I wish to teach an individual how to be the best friend to himself or herself. Your spouse or friend or partner or parents or a bigger salary or a bigger house cannot take away the wounds and pain you have experienced in your life. This is also why changing a partner as in a divorce does not always solve the problem. There is only one person who can dissolve the pain: YOU. And it starts by willing to become the best supporter, the best friend you can be -- towards yourself! The journey of non-stop self-improvement is the very best journey I have embarked...
Read MoreLove is an ability that can be learned, says relationship expert Hellen Chen
Three times #1 bestselling author and relationship master Hellen Chen has helped at least 100 singles who had been skeptical about marriage to find their true love and to walk down the aisle. With a philosophy that love is an "ability" that can be improved, she travels the world to counsel singles and couples on what it takes to keep a relationship lasting and deep. Her popular Love Seminar will be coming to Los Angeles at the Hilton Hotel on May 23 Saturday. A statement that Chen has heard over and over again from men and women who were unhappy in their relationships has been "If only my partner can change for me..." "Many singles think that their biggest problem is not able to meet the right person. But the more precise reason is they don't even know who the right person is." said Chen, "They know what kind of person they like or dislike. However, it does not mean the person they like is right for them." "Many men and women entered into marriage with the idea that they could change the behavior of their partner." Chen added, "That's wrongful thinking and the relationship often ends up in disaster." She encouraged singles to not spend time and money and energy to go around dating but to look for someone who seriously want to enter marriage. When asked about why dating a lot to find the right partner does not work, Chen explained in a recent Fox TV interview, "When people date a lot before they get married, their hearts get broken once too often and these bad experiences accumulate. These bad experiences even carry into their marriage and the moment they encounter seemingly insurmountable hardships in the relationship, they break-off easily as they think the next gal or guy would be better." According to Chen, a marriage is not about what another person could give to self but a chance for self to learn how to give to another. Believing that most individuals do want a loving relationship, Chen started lecturing and writing books about the subject. As a bestselling author, she has written 25 books and her book "The Matchmaker of the Century" and "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" became number one bestsellers in relationship books at Barnes and Noble. Chen's works in family, marriage and personal developments are featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. She has been a frequent guest on independent and network radio and TV shows on FOX, CBS, NBC and ABC etc. To help singles and couples develop the ability to love, Chen has released a whole series of love workshops in Asia and in America. This upcoming event "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" on Saturday May 23 at Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city is the 12th workshop Chen will be conducting in Los Angeles. For more information about the workshop, please contact 800-912-0510 or visit...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s Love Seminar: You Can Experience the Love You Want
Hellen surprises the students of the 11th Love Seminar in Los Angeles with a big message: you can experience the love you want -- anytime! The students warm up to the lessons as Hellen demonstrated the "how-to." I learn that if I cannot love myself, I cannot love another person as well. -- D P Today this seminar helps me to break through a big wall. I can love my spouse "crazily" and also create the ideal relationship I want to the people around me. Thanks Hellen! -- C Falling in love is not just with a partner. I realized I can "fall in love" with myself, with my job, with my friends etc. It's the same! -- E.C If you cannot experience the "fall" as in "fall in love," there is no power, no craziness -- life is boring -- and of course there is no passion with any one! -- E.M I used to think that being passionate is something that I am not i.e, I am just not that type of person. But today I learn a very different lesson. I can give so much more! This changes my whole operating basis towards my life, my job and my family! -- S.W I came here to understand how to find the right partner. But I left the event with so much more understanding of how I can make any relationship "right." And it is all within my power to create! -- A.C You can experience the love story you dream about. You only need to know "HOW" Come and join us at the latest love seminar to pick up the lessons!...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s Love Seminar Teaches Men and Women to Not Waste Time in Dating – Houston Style Magazine
Having written 25 books on the subject of relationships and personal improvement, bestselling author and matchmaker extraordinaire Hellen Chen travels the world lecturing tens of thousands of men and women on how to experience a "happily ever after" relationship with their partners. On March 21st, she is arriving in Los Angeles to deliver a special seminar on love and relationships. Chen's famous advice of "marriage first, date later" is a shocker for most who are used to the concept of dating carefully first before selecting the right partner for marriage. This unconventional matchmaker has however used this philosophy to successfully match couples together who then stay together. She encourages singles not to spend time, money and energy going around dating, but rather to look for someone who seriously wants to get married. When asked about why modern dating is deterring men and women from reaching their relationship goal, Chen explained in a recent interview, "90% of dating ends in breakups. When a person accumulates too many breakup experiences, they tend to believe having a lasting relationship is all about having a right person. Yet many people do not even know what a right partner is. " Having been married for over 20 years, Chen shared her personal experience, "Instead of putting all your eggs in one basket of trying to find a perfect partner, why not learn how to be a Mr or Ms Right yourself?" To bring her message about managing love and relationships, Chen had given over 200 international media interviews, has publications in 20 countries and also actively holds training workshops to teach singles and couples how to improve the quality of love in their life. Her workshop "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" helps working professionals have a lasting relationship and is open to both singles and married individuals. Her next event will be held in Los Angeles on March 21. For registration details, please call 800-912-0510 or visit...
Read MoreWhen the going gets tough in a relationship…
Do these sound familiar? "He/she changed after we get married." "We started off well but as time goes by, I realize he is not who I thought I want to fall in love with." "I think the next relationship will be better." Life is not always a bed of roses. What should you do when the going gets tough in a relationship? Will changing partners solve the problem you are running into? Listen to Hellen's insights: If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE. Announcement: How do you find your "perfect" match? How do you have a happy marriage? Attend Hellen Chen's Love Seminar and get your answers. Click here to find the next event! ...
Read MoreGet Married Now… and Date Later?
In this interview, Hellen talks about why if your goal is to have a happy marriage, don't waste your time in endless dating to find the right partner. 90% of dating ends in breakups. But what is worse than simply breaking up? Here is the interview: Hellen Chen is an international speaker, bestselling author and has been called the "Matchmaker Of the Century" by the couples she has helped brought together. Her work on marriage and relationships has been featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. If you are part of an media entity, you may request an original audio or video format of the above video by writing us HERE. For other requests or questions, we welcome you to write us HERE. Next Topic: When the Going Gets Tough in a...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s 10th Love Seminar in LA Was a Great Success
[metaslider id=2394] Our Dec 27th 2014 seminar is our 10th seminar event in Los Angeles. Hellen brought up a very special viewpoint on "promotion." Business people know that marketing and promotion create sales and income. But how about in the area of love? How does one attract and find the right partner? In a marriage, how does one rekindle the passion to love no matter how many years one has been married? What I like most about today's seminar is learning how to promote myself to another person. I have never heard a speech on marriage that is so funny and effective! -- T.W I learned how to talk to my husband and make him feel loved. At the same time, I learn how to admire my good points and become more confident and comfortable with myself. I am more able to love myself. I am more able to love others. -- A.L I like the focus on "promotion." I have always hated to talk about myself but now I see how necessary it is. -- G.M With the exercises in the workshop, I increased so much more confidence about myself and I can enjoy talking about my good points. I am able to create attraction and feel more passionate and free. -- V.C. I see more and more of my good points. In the past, I always thought these "good points" are not important. So I tried to cover them up. Actually I do have good points which others don't have. Today I learn how to appreciate myself! I also find out the reason my relationship has not gone well is not because I am not attractive enough. But I have not let my other half know what I'm doing. This time I overcome the barrier of "promoting" myself. I increase my confidence, and thus also have a greater love to give to the people around me! -- A.C. To love and be loved is an ability! Learn more on how you can increase your ability to love! ...
Read MoreHow to give love and how to get love? Los Angeles Love Seminar Oct 25th
Hellen gets the audience to put their thinking cap on with her first question: What is the most important thing in life? The energy of the room rises 100 notches and higher when attendees realize they have received the "secret" to not just a loving relationship but to a happy life! Success Story Love Seminar Oct 25 "I cried when I see how much my husband want me to be happy. And I understand why he supports me so much. He knows when I break through and improve, I will be super happy ! I also see my goal in life so clearly and at this seminar, I learn how I can achieve this goal through my daily actions! I feel more comfortable when I am with others, and I love people even more! This seminar is amazing! -- KL, Sales Executive "I see how life is simple -- because I become certain of my goal in life and the way to attain it. I clearly see how I have wasted time and energy in the past. From today onwards, I will use full energy towards the "right" places to swiftly attain my dreams." - F.W, TaiChi Master "This seminar resolved my problems in my marriage! I used to think my spouse created such problems which I am helpless to resolve. But now I know the problem is actually on me! I do have a good marriage. I simply need to enjoy it and improve myself at the same time." -- S.C, Supervisor "What I like best about the seminar is how Hellen focuses on the basics of marriage and how it ties in with happiness and the goal in life. I learn that if I do not improve myself, there is simply no happiness to enjoy! I am very energized and touched by what Hellen demonstrated and presented!" -- J.T, Single Mom "I finally know how to fall in love with myself. I appreciate what others do for me and can see the good qualities of others. I now understand how to love others. I will be improving my ability to love from this point onwards. My future is filled with hope and happiness! :)" -- A.C, Teacher "I learn how to channel my energy towards the right areas of life, especially on my goals. When I can lift another person up through my communication, I get positive energy back! I must learn how to present myself confidently and never waste my time anymore, so that I can achieve my goals!" -- C.H, Marketing Exec "Hellen helps me to sort out what is my goal, what do I care most in life. There is no time to complain and be critical because there are too many good things to enjoy and catch in life -- there is simply no time for bad things." -- T.H, Consultant "I have never thought my own improvement will create happiness for 2 persons in a relationship. Hellen teaches me the basic mechanics of how to be in a successful loving relationship. I can enjoy love and grow old happily with my better half!" -- Sal Z, Admin Executive ...
Read MoreThe True Love & Happy Marriage Seminar Completion Sep. 6 2014
Thanks to all who came to my Sep 6 2014 Love Seminar in Los Angeles. It was so great to see everyone! Wow! We had a great time, didn't we? Thanks for your feedback and acknowledgements! I like to share below the touching success stories which the attendees have mentioned: Love Seminar success stories I had thought I was a hopeless case for marriage. Hellen showed me I can break through the limitations I have imposed on myself. I feel a surge of new energy to confront the future. -- J. S. Sales Executive I wish I have attended this class many years ago. I see what I was missing in my past relationships. I highly recommend the love seminar for those who want a happy lasting relationship. --- N. B Consultant When Hellen spoke about the biggest mistake women make in a relationship, I knew this mistake has created lots of hardship in my current relationship. Thanks to Hellen, I now know how to create more love and happiness with my partner! -- J. C Business Owner After I have retired, I have become too lazy to socialize and meet people. Hellen woke me up to the fact I was not living life anymore. Ｉlike to make myself more attractive and seek love! -- E. H Retired Bank Manager I have read many books and attended seminars on the subject of love. I did not think I would learn anything from this seminar. Boy, am I surprised! I cannot wait to go and use the techniques learned here towards my search for my soul mate! -- A. A Fashion Designer After marriage and with the birth of a son, my husband and I drifted apart. This seminar taught me the importance of keeping up the passion in a marriage. Thanks Hellen! You gave me a very clear road I could travel on -- a road of self-betterment and thus happiness! -- V. F Secretary I used to think that marriage is simply being together and try to get along with each other from day to day. I have never thought about building a future together. I know my next marriage will be very different because of what I learn today -- Y. C Marketing...
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How do you get a “good” relationship?
I have marked down the key points I talked about in the video so you can get to those section faster: Why if you try so hard to look for perfection, you will be "trapped"? (1:19) What is going on when someone wants a divorce? (2:11) When a relationship has become boring, what is really happening? (3:15) How do you get a "good" relationship? (3:53) What happen after you fall in love? How do you keep up the relationship? (4:10) Love is simple. There are no reasons needed. (4:25) The love seminar teaches you all you need to know about LOVE. See you soon at the next event HERE. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me HERE. Love,...
Read MoreHellen Chen’s Love Seminar in Los Angeles July 19
Hellen Chen’s Love Workshop in Los Angeles completed successfully on July 19th 2014. It was a fun and powerful seminar where Hellen explained what men and women really want, and how to keep the love after marriage. Success Stories from the Participants: I really enjoy this class today. The communication exercises are what I exactly need! I have now no reservation of how to approach someone I like! – M. S Health Care Professionals Today, I really learn how to express and share what is deep inside me. I love the communication exercises in this session. I am very touched that by one can feel so much love in such a short time! – A.C, Teacher I learn how to make another person happy and comfortable with my communication – this is what makes relationship fun! I like what Hellen has mentioned, if I keep on improving my communication and myself in life, the right woman will appear! – G. C Chef After attending today’s seminar, I am no longer frustrated on how to approach a person. I can show my love fully without any reservation. Language and distance are no longer barriers! – C. H Nursery School Professional I used to think that after marriage, it is the end – I ‘got’ a wife. But today I learn how to continue to court my wife, date her and capture her heart. I am excited! Thanks, Hellen! – S.C Education Professional After I got married, I became ‘serious’ and stopped the fun things I used to do with my wife when we were dating. Hellen showed me how a marriage is actually fun and love – it has always been how I wanted marriage to be. N.B Counselor I got more out of this seminar than what I fully expected. I used to have a hard time to talk to my teenage children. Now I know the exact mistake I have committed! Wow. I should have taken this class many years ago! -- M. F. PR Executive I have read Hellen's books and seen her videos. I like her materials. But attending her event live is an incredible experience like no other! I like the hands-on exercises -- I learn how I can express myself fully without fear. I also learn the most important part of keeping love alive in any relationship. Thanks Hellen! I would never have found out all of these answers if not for you. Attending this seminar is a MUST for any men and women who want to enjoy love!! -- H.C Marketing Consultant Click here to learn about the next Hellen Chen Love Seminar dates ...
Read MoreLove is an Ability: July 19 Seminar by Relationship Master Hellen Chen
Three times #1 bestselling author and relationship master Hellen Chen has helped at least 100 singles who had been skeptical about marriage to find their true love and to walk down the aisle. With a philosophy that love is an "ability" that can be improved, she travels the world to counsel singles and couples on what it takes to keep a relationship lasting and deep. Her popular Love Seminar will be coming to Los Angeles at the Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city on July 19th Saturday. A statement that Chen has heard over and over again from men and women who were unhappy in their relationships has been "If only my partner can change for me..." "Many singles think that their biggest problem is not able to meet the right person. But the more precise reason is they don't even know who is the right person." said Chen, "They know what kind of person they like or dislike. However, this is no measurement of whether the person they like is right for them." "Many men and women entered into marriage with the idea that they could change the behavior of their partner." Chen added, "That's wrongful thinking and the relationship often ends up in disaster." She encouraged singles to not spend time and money and energy to go around dating but to look for someone who seriously want to enter marriage. When asked about why dating a lot to find the right partner does not work, Chen explained in a recent Fox TV interview, "When people date a lot before they get married, their hearts get broken once too often and these bad experiences accumulate. These bad experiences even carry into their marriage and the moment they encounter seemingly insurmountable hardships in the relationship, they break-off easily as they think the next gal or guy would be better." According to Chen, a marriage is not about what another person could give to self but a chance for self to learn how to give to another. Believing that most individuals do want a loving relationship, Chen started lecturing and writing books about the subject. As a bestselling author, she has written 25 books and her book "The Matchmaker of the Century" and "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" became number one bestsellers in relationship books at Barnes and Noble. Chen's works in family, marriage and personal developments are featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. She has been a frequent guest on independent and network radio and TV shows on FOX, CBS, NBC and ABC etc. To help singles and couples develop the ability to love, Chen has released a whole series of love workshops in Asia and in America. This upcoming event "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" on Saturday July 19 at Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city is the 7th workshop Chen will be conducting in Los...
Read MorePowerful lessons about love — Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar Completion on March 8
Our 6th US Love Seminar completed on a high note on March 8 - International Women's Day. It was a fun and deep seminar as Hellen goes into the misconceptions and false conditions men and women have towards a marital partner. As one attendee has commented, "These conditions made a person less able to love." Success Stories ❤ When you want to love someone, you have to practice HOW to love. It does not come automatically. I like Hellen's teaching on the basics I need to learn about love. - A.C Counsellor. ❤ After today's practice session and seminar, I can create a deeper love with my child and my husband. -- J. W Teacher ❤ Today, I've found out how to improve myself to become better in love. I learn to discard all conditions imposed on my better half and to really be independent, and love him well. - E. Z Executive ❤ My conditions for love are getting less and I am having more freedom to love. Hellen helps me understand life! -- P.B CEO ❤ This seminar is very practical and to the point. I think it's time for me to step out and meet people. -- R.K Music Teacher ❤ I like the practice session on how to express my feelings. It's important to learn how to communicate and know how to promote myself. -- V.C Designer ❤ After this seminar, I cherish my wife even more and can tell her so much more! -- S. C Training Supervisor ❤ Practice, practice and more practice in order to have a high quality love life. -- C. C Researcher. Click here to learn about the next love seminar dates ...
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