Posts by MmCntrY

How Do You Really Understand Someone?

Posted by on May 4, 2017 in Articles, Events | 0 comments

How Do You Really Understand Someone?

My side passion has always been to meddle in other people's relationship issues. And over the years, in addition to being a business and management consultant, I have even earned the title of "Matchmaker of the Century." This title was given to me by the couples I have match-made. It is not because I have match-made thousands of people. It is because the people whom I have match-made usually have hard-to-resolve issues which make them not wanting marriage. My longest record has been working with a lady for 8 years, to finally get her to say "I do." Many people have told me the reason why they could not get married is because they have not found someone they like. What I have seen is people wasting lots of time in dating. They wanted to "make sure" someone is the right one. They hanged on to futile relationships or they break up with the person whom they should have married. Here is another issue: if you have met someone you like, how do you go about understanding that person? Do you go out with him to watch a movie? Have dinner? Kiss? Observe how he dresses? Ask about his background? The truth is: you cannot fully understand a person this way! It is not that you are not smart enough. It is the fact that even he himself does not know himself. You ask him 10 questions about life. He says, "I don't know" or even if he gives an answer, it is not completely how he feels. Can you see the problem? He is not even sure why he gives those answers! If you really want to know a person completely, you need to use a whole lifetime and at least be with him/her! And people change. Your favorite color, food, music and hobbies all can change. So if you think you "understand" someone, I guess this could only happen if he/she never changes. For some of you, your parents or siblings have not understood you despite spending so much time together. Thus, to find a partner who can truly understand you is almost an impossible task! You spend 2 years dating this person – how well do both of you know each other? So why waste the 2 years? Why not just get married first and then try to understand each other? At least this is your better half, you will start to manage your marriage life, have kids, etc. This kind of life is real. When you are just a boyfriend and a girlfriend, what you understand and know about each other is not real – both sides are always withholding certain things. How she dresses for you at the date may not be how she dresses usually. After marriage, she may not dress this way or speak to you in the same manner. And the love sparks between you and her are just like acting in a play. No matter how much you have given for this relationship, it is like trying to fill up a bucket with water, but the bucket is filled with holes. You assume that spending more time together will help you understand each other more. I have to tell you this truth: over time, one simply has better skills to not reveal certain things and matters that get covered up between both of you will become more and more! A lady came and met me for the first time. She told me she was with her boyfriend for 8 years. And the second time she met with me again, I told her, "You can separate from your boyfriend. This year we will find someone for you and you can get married." Tears streamed down her eyes. After one week, she separated from her boyfriend. Now she is happily married, expecting a child, and happier than ever before! This lady later asked me, "How did you know I should separate with my boyfriend?" I understood what happened. She spent 8 years with her ex-boyfriend, but there was no end to it....

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Hellen Chen’s LOVE-U-Forever Relationship Love Seminar

Posted by on Feb 8, 2017 in Articles, Events | 0 comments

Hellen Chen’s LOVE-U-Forever Relationship Love Seminar

  In January, I hosted my fifteenth Love Seminar in Los Angeles, USA. I am so humbled to have met such an amazing group of work professionals and couples. They all came from different backgrounds but they have one thing in common: they all shared similar values when it comes to love and personal improvement. Here are some incredible feedback from my students:   I thought my problem had been my shyness with women. At this event, I found out even if I had met a "perfect" match, I would have a hard time to keep this relationship going. This event woke me up. Thanks for the very powerful info on not only how to approach women but also to make relationships last.  -- Ken   I loved the "practice session" in your event. I have been married for close to 10 years. There has been no major problems going on with my husband but here is where the problem lies, our relationship has no sparks or passion. You showed me what was missing -- I see it all started with my communication. I don't have to avoid saying certain things out of fear of upsetting my spouse. And I don't have to "try so hard" to be nice. By the way, I wish to say your love seminar is the only event I have come across (I have attended other events) that truly let attendees practice how to interact with people the correct way. Please keep me informed on your future events.  -- June   How I wished I had come across your seminar and materials 10 years ago!! I was the typical "busy working professional" who despite wanting to get married, kept on missing the boat. Some people envy me for my professional success and the money I make, but they never know my failures in relationships. You are the first person I met who truly helped me answer these questions: how do I find the right person and how do I know who is suitable for me? Thanks for such a clear direction!  -- Angeline   I am 51 this year and was divorced for many years. I went in and out of dating men and became very frustrated on why I could not find the right person. I started to wonder "what's wrong with me?" You showed me what really mattered to keep a relationship going. Thank you!  -- Josephine   My wife and I had a very serious fight recently and she was contemplating divorce. Your workshop sheds light for me what exactly deteriorated this relationship. It was not what I thought on how we had grown apart. You showed me how both of us could fully do what we love to do in life without "compromising" for each other. We could have different interests, different friends, etc and still find a solid common ground. Your event gave me tremendous hope. I now know how to be a better man for my wife!  -- Jack   I love what you taught at the event. I thought I had missed the time for finding a husband after raising 2 boys myself. I felt awkward dating and felt totally at a loss when a new date wanted to be intimate. You make having a lasting relationship SIMPLE again for me. I know now how to find my ideal mate.  -- Madeline   My workshop seminars have helped men and women from all around the world on how to experience their own “happily ever after.” I developed special relationships with my students throughout the years and I have witnessed the enormous growth in both their personal and professional lives.   In case you have missed my last event, I am excited to be hosting my next Love Seminar workshop in Los Angeles on May 20, 2017. The topics I discuss in my workshops are unique and different to one another. I am always learning new skills and sharing what I have learned on what it takes to nurture and maintain meaningful relationships.   Join us for our...

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Dubai: What a spectacular city!

Posted by on May 31, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

Dubai: What a spectacular city!

Dubai: What a spectacular city! A brand new culture of its own. A new style of living. It is a wonderful world of never-ending possibilities! Inspirational and emotional! Great!!!!!!! I am happy to join the action and experience in this new world! :)))))))                                                                                        ...

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Good morning Mumbai!

Posted by on May 31, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

Good morning Mumbai!

Goo d morning Mumbai! :)) 早安孟買! 🙂 When I know you, 我認識你時, You're still called Bombay. 那時的你還是叫Bombay。 Now you grow up and shine as Mumbai! 現在的你發展成為閃亮的 Mumbai !! Hi Mumbai, 嗨孟買, I have left pieces of my heart here, with you! :)) 曾經我留下部分的心在這裏,跟著你! :)) This time I want to put it in the right place. 這一次,我要把他好好地放在對的地方。 So nice to see you again! 很高興再次見到你! It touches me so much when I see you from the sky. 當我從天空看到你時,我是多麼的感動! Love is in the air; 愛充滿在空中 My heart beats with excitement! 我的心興奮地跳動著! Hi Mumbai, 嗨孟買, So nice to share my life with you.  多麼的美好,可以與你分享我的生活。 This time we have an even better time... 這一次,我們有一個更美好的時光... I will leave my heart here anyway! 我會把我的心再次留在這裏! I love you -- no matter if you are called Bombay or Mumbai! :))))))) 我愛你,無論你的名字是Bombay或Mumbai ! :)))))  ...

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Knowing How to Create Love: Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar

Posted by on May 28, 2016 in Articles, Events | 0 comments

Knowing How to Create Love: Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar

  Love is a state of feeling pure, beautiful, positive and wonderful, and to feel "crazy" for the things you do. It's a high energy, and an uncontrollable feeling that is also playful and exciting. Love does not need to depend on another person but it can be created by oneself. Hellen gave another great seminar on how to love and be loved. Here are some incredible successes from our students: Hellen made it so clear how to create "LOVE." It is just pure stuff, and something one can be crazy for. I was thinking in the past how to make other people comfortable but now, I know it's a wrong direction. I have to make myself comfortable first, I can then pass on that feeling to another person. I'm going to practice giving "pure" love to everyone, and create love from my heart/mind. What a great seminar! A.W   Today's seminar helped me to understand how to create the love feeling in my life. When I can causatively create the feeling of love, no matter who the person in front of me is, and no matter in which moment, love can be created. I can practice to demonstrate love in my marriage and towards my working partners. I can have a greater ability to love every single person who shows up in my life. I.C   I am really impressed of how Hellen brought the group into a deep understanding -- a true understanding about love. I learn the importance of not mixing up the "love time" and "work time" in my marriage. I am also creating love, not affected by the condition or other people. This is the ability I will practice forever! I.W   The definition of love shared at this event surprised me! What I could create for my spouse took on a whole new dimension! There are simply so many creative ways to create love! W.C   Love is simple and pure. I had learned about love the wrong way, until the point that love became so complex and hard. Through this event, I recover the simple and pure feeling of love. T.P   Hellen defined love so clearly and after doing the exercises in class, I realized I do have the ability to create love not just with a partner, but with any and everyone I meet. Thanks Hellen for a great class! 🙂 R.L   After examining the love definition, I realized I did many actions in my relationship that has nothing to do with love! Love is created out from nothing to something that is sweet. When I am pure at heart, when I have no negativity, the vibes I give will be positive and will make another happy. Being comfortable and happy myself is important. To love and be loved is simple! Thanks! A.Z   Love is natural. And being crazy about life is natural too. Love shows up in different forms. As long as it is pure and positive, it's beautiful. It does not matter which role you take on, as long as you can enjoy and indulge in that role, it is wonderful! I now understand what Hellen means by being a "life artist." I learn a lot today. I know how to fall in love even more! 🙂 W.W   I don't have to ask my spouse to give me love or ask him, "Do you love me?" I simply need to tell him I love him and make him feel that I really love him. If I just do that, the love in our relationship will naturally grow and I will be the lucky recipient of our love. G.C   Join us for our next Los Angeles event by clicking here!                          ...

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